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Absolutely unequal, do you mean! Some are sensual, more cerebral, some make love three times a day when others just once a month. No abnormalities in there. The only criterion that exists in terms of desire is: is there or not suffering? If there is suffering, we must act. If not, is that everything is in order.

The desire is built in childhood

For Freud, adult sexuality, genital, is built in childhood from two phases of development called oral and anal. Orality described as “cannibalistic” based on the pleasure of the mouth: suck, suck. The anality results from the discovery of controlling their sphincters: the child realizes that he may gleefully hold or conversely releasing his productions bowel. And concludes that it can be satisfied, either actively or passively. Infantile sexuality is essentially autoerotic, centered on the true self.

Moreover, according to Freud, it is “perverse”, plural, because the child uses whatever is at hand to do good. Desire, “libido”, has a sexual purpose, but not only. This is it, indeed, gives us the desire to understand the world, to turn to life. Sexual desire for each other is evolving, particularly at the time of the Oedipus complex, where the child longs for the parent of the opposite sex, while feeling guilty that momentum. This ever-present sense of guilt about sexuality as a potential reservoir of neuroses and moral difficulties. In fact, one does not abandon infantile sexuality to enter triumphantly into the era of mature sex. It remains all his life depends on his emotions of children. Hence, according to psychoanalysts, all aberrations and complications of adult desire.

Remember that the main body of desire, for humans, is his psyche. Cycles a couple therefore depend on the personal history and no generality is possible. Anyway, the man is not cyclic since manufactures billions of sperm per day, and a man in good physical and mental health can almost make love with the same intensity all his life. The woman, however, has a predetermined number of cycles. However, female desire is linked to cycles since it depends, in part, hormones. At menopause, a woman may experience physiological disorders that cause a decrease in desire. Hence the value of hormone replacement therapy since they cancel almost all of these side effects. As a sexologist, I note, moreover, a rebirth of desire when the children have become independent. Women 60 years are surprised to be stretched again by their husband, retired and relaxed, then they thought they were more desirable.

The desire to maintain it more easily when you have lots of fantasies?

There is no desire without fantasy, since desire is linked to the memory of a former enjoyment. A man will be sensitive to women’s necklines, because his first emotions were linked to those of an aunt or a maid. A woman will find a erotic man in jeans and bare feet, because it reminds him of something from his past. However, some individuals are tied by their fantasies, to the extent that they cannot enjoy repeating the same scenario, such a scene of violence or humiliation for example. They are addicted like a drug, while freedom is to be present at the person with whom one is: there is the opportunity to discover the wealth of love games and enjoy what the we have.

Yes, creating surprise. There are two kinds of desire, the desire and the desire provoked spontaneous. The spontaneous desire, it is these bursts of pleasure that can arise at the hairdressers for example – I know women who have real orgasms when their mass head – or at the physiotherapist. This desire is totally instinctual. And then there’s the desire provoked, he who speaks. La Fontaine warned us: “The trouble came a day consistency. “I do not know that much about the desire to be unacceptable because it creates a necessary complicity to last, but you have to allow a range unknown. Desire awakens through strategies, creating a special moment of intimacy. This can be, without any official celebration, bring a bouquet of flowers or a book that is known to like. Or simply change their hairstyles. This is be confusing.

And if we do not have the energy to make an effort, if one is not even in the desire to desire?

Is this lack of desire arises in the heart of a couple because it fails to transform the lightning strike that led to his debut in a true love, or because for various reasons, the story is finished. Good separation is more appropriate than a bad couple! Is he who is concerned by the lack of desire is depression, what happens to those who, in their infancy, could not find the objects that are to enjoy, such as mother’s breast. The priority is to treat the depressive syndrome.

Strategies to awaken the desire which you speak are they sufficient for all couples?

No, because the unconscious is sometimes stronger than anything. To change it, then there is only one solution: hire a therapy. For example, there are women who, because of a Puritan upbringing, are doing unconsciously to turn off all sexuality within the couple, while others, who fear that too much love to the love overflows; or men who, because of a complicated relationship with their mother, are drowning in work. In these cases, it is the person to do work and, generally, during therapy, the desire for another is reborn.

The desire is exhausted there any faster when you stay with the same partner?

A form of monotony settles similarly when it changes often. The desire is exhausted because neither partner was able to maintain an element of mystery and play But I know of couples that have lasted over forty years and for whom everything is fine.

Men and women they easily decode the desire of the other?

A man never understands anything to a woman’s desire. In contrast, a woman, since she knows a man, knows them all. All are concerned about the same thing: “Will I” bend “? “While every woman is doing as she can with her childhood, her parents, Oedipus. Every woman is different and, when a man knows one, he knows that. This explains why men them did not have much to talk about themselves, their sexuality is more or less to summarize “it works or it does not work”, while women do not stop to discuss the different tones assume that the desire and pleasure for each.

There is urgent need to reintroduce the language of love in the field of sex. And the media has some responsibility because they are the first to carry the speech thought of sex, this “sexophonie”. It is not a return to the romantic ideal or the abstract idea of ​​pure love. But we must reinvent love sex, start to think in terms of dating, relationships between people, people with a name and a face.

Gerard Vallès is a child psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and sexologist. Founding member in 1975 of the French Federation of Clinical Sexology, he is now vice president of the World Association of Sexology.

Psychoanalysis teaches us that sexual desire is always singular, because he was born and developed in our personal history. Elusive, more to keep permanently, it is essentially mysterious and volatile. Hence the questions, doubts and worries that his irregularity or its absence generates the torque. Gerard Valles explains what can dry out when feeding.

Psychologies: What is desire?

Gerard Vallès : The definition given by Freud’s desire is still relevant. He explained that during the care she gives to her child, the mother does “enjoy” far beyond the need since it satisfies the same time, she cajoles him and speaks of love. For Lacan, this ‘extra’ enjoyment is a given when the baby did not ask. And then claiming the child and beyond all this enjoyment need not ever get completely, because what he wants is that you enjoy to do without his request.

Desire is the memory of this unexpected pleasure that we would find. Our wish is to be desired out of any strategy of seduction, what Lacan summarizes by this formula: “The desire of man is the desire of the other. “Therefore, anything box in any relationship, because the desire for one is never fully in line with the desire of the other. And fortunately it missed a bit: this is because the desire is not completely filled it stays awake.

Why, then, couples know they are times when there is decreased desire and sometimes even death?

Because when I say that desire is the memory of an unexpected infant enjoyment that you would find, I express the wish that there lives a surprise. To desire is to wait to be surprised by the other. However, some couples settle into a routine that is a real “kill desire.”

Vladimir Klitschko will not face the French Jean-Marc Mormeck on December 10 in Germany. The Ukrainian, who became a kidney stone removed Saturday night at a clinic in Dusseldorf, suffers from post-operative pain. The fight was rescheduled on March 3, at the same place.

Vladimir Klitschko, holder of the WBA-IBF-WBO heavyweight, has decided to cancel his fight December 10 against the French Jean-Marc Mormeck as a result of post-operative pain, said Monday’s manager Bernd Bonte Ukrainian . “Vladimir is sad and devastated, but he felt extreme pain again ” Bernd Bonte said the German agency SID, about the bout scheduled Saturday in Dusseldorf.

The younger Klitschko had felt a pain in the abdomen Friday that forced him to leave his training camp near Kitzbühel, Austria, for examination at a hospital in Innsbruck. He was then repatriated to Düsseldorf for surgery for a kidney stone on Saturday. “The operation went well. If there are no unforeseen complications, he will fight” said at the time the manager of the younger Klitschko. Saturday, Mormeck was shown in the fatalistic view of a possible postponement of the fight. “He’s the champion. If it is not fit, it will void, “He told the Paris region since Thiais where he was a public demonstration of his fitness and his work in the ring.

High of 35 years, Vladimir Klitschko is no longer mounted on a ring for a fight since winning official and unification of the heavyweight belts WBA-IBF-WBO against Britain’s David Haye in July. It displays a record of 56 wins, including 49 before the limit, only 3 defeats. This will be his 20th world championship. Mormeck, former world champion WBA light-heavyweight 39 years old, will attempt to charm the WBA heavyweight title IBF-WBO-held by the Ukrainian since his victory against Britain’s David Haye in July.

Earlier this afternoon, Bernd Bonte, Klitschko’s manager, said it had found a date to reschedule the fight. It will now take place on March 3, again in Düsseldorf.

Filipino Manny Pacquiao has signed its 15th straight win and retained his WBO welterweight title by beating Mexican Juan Manuel Marquez on majority decision of the judges on Saturday in Las Vegas. Successfully challenged by his opponent.

Pacquiao, who recorded his 54th victory (38 before the limit) and its 15th consecutive victory, however, has imposed on a small margin, with two judges seeing the winning 116-112 and 115-113, the third saw a draw 114-114.

“PacMan” had already fought Marquez twice and had not shown much convincing (a draw in 2004 and a one point victory in 2008), Marquez also self-proclaimed winner of both fights . The Mexican’s arm raised in victory at the ringing of the final round on Saturday but has again been given to beat at the end of combat power, much to the fury of his many supporters, who flooded the whistles Initial feedback from the microphone Pacquiao in the ring. “For me it’s clear that I won this fight, said Pacquiao. I understand the fans of Mark, they are disappointed. But I have a lot of his shots blocked attack and gave me numerous head shots. ”

Mark: “I’ve been robbed”

“I have been robbed,” said Marquez. Ignacio Beristain coach has also used the same words. Even the promoter of both fighters, the famous Bob Arum, agreed that the situation between his foals was still not clearly settled and announced that he would try to organize a fourth fight in May 2012. “I am determined to see a winner emerge once and for all, “He said after the fight. This proposal does not disturb the Left Pacquiao, now a member of Parliament of his country, which has lost more than 5 years. At 32, he won 10 world titles in 8 categories and is an absolute idol in his country. Marquez, 38, conceded defeat his sixth (of which only 3 against Pacquiao) in 60 fights.

The start of combat was prudent on the part of both boxers and the pressure is rising gradually. Pacquiao took the ascendancy in the third recovery but Marquez said in the next round with a powerful right in the chest and another in the jaw. He held on to the remote Philippine 7th round, when Pacquiao resumed his offensive mind and then well into the shock end in a spectacular battle that has regaled the audience. The battle was preceded by a tribute to former world heavyweight champion Joe Frazier, who died Monday of liver cancer. Ring the bell sounded ten times, and a moment of silence was observed by the 15,000 fans on hand to honor the memory of “Smokin ‘Joe”, the first boxer to beat Muhammad Ali.

The French Grégory Bauge was stripped of his title as the speed at the World Championships last March due to a retroactive suspension for breach location. However, it may participate in Olympic Games in London, his suspension is over.

This is a thunderclap. Gregory Bauge, star of the French track cycling world champion and three-speed, was suspended one year for doping retroactively. He is accused of failing to subject to the obligations of localization in the context of the fight against doping. Accordingly, it loses its green carpet world title earned last March in Apeldoorn. The France team is also deprived of the title won in team sprint with Bauge, but also Kevin Sireau and Michael d’Almeida.

“Bauge sinned by lightness and the lightness it is very expensive, “He told AFP a French source familiar with the matter noting that the penalty also penalizes two teammates Bauge, quite foreign to the problem. The title of the speed in the World 2011 returns to Columbia, therefore Jason Kenny , which was dominated in the final in straight sets by Bauge dry. In the event of the team sprint, the decommissioning of the French trio victorious advantage to Germany (Enders, Levy, Nimke), already crowned in 2010. Baugé is a disaster, but also for the French track, whose image will inevitably be tarnished by this affair.

First tripled since Rousseau

Grégory Bauge was the first sprinter since his coach Florian Rousseau (1996-1998) to win three consecutive world championship in speed individual discipline’s most prestigious track. In 2011, it became stronger than ever, dominating the competition head and shoulders. His one-year suspension imposed by the Disciplinary Committee of the French Cycling Federation. A decision last November and released Friday by the International Cycling Union. According to the International Regulations, three problems over a period of eighteen months related to the location or absence of a control (once in the case of Bauge) or imprecise location (twice), equivalent to a positive control and may for athletes concerned a penalty of about two years of suspension.

Importantly, this suspension is retroactive, which means it runs from 23 November 2010 to November 23, 2011. Hence the loss of two world titles. But it also means that Grégory Bauge is not within the scope of this measure today. It can therefore claim to a normal selection for the London Olympics next summer. If, sportingly, he is as strong as the past three years, it will be the same as the favorite for the gold medal. The question is how it digests this. It is unclear whether the French champion also plans to appeal. International bodies have also the opportunity to challenge that decision. But for the French track, the damage is done. The home may not be very friendly in London. Especially since the British have not forgotten the remarks of some of their French opponents after the Beijing Games, where the domination of the track racers of his Majesty was overwhelming. A nasty backlash …

The French Grégory Bauge was stripped of his title as the speed at the World Championships last March due to a retroactive suspension for breach location. However, it may participate in Olympic Games in London, his suspension is over.

This is a thunderclap. Gregory Bauge, star of the French track cycling world champion and three-speed, was suspended one year for doping retroactively. He is accused of failing to subject to the obligations of localization in the context of the fight against doping. Accordingly, it loses its green carpet world title earned last March in Apeldoorn. The France team is also deprived of the title won in team sprint with Bauge, but also Kevin Sireau and Michael d’Almeida.

“Bauge sinned by lightness and the lightness it is very expensive, “He told AFP a French source familiar with the matter noting that the penalty also penalizes two teammates Bauge, quite foreign to the problem. The title of the speed in the World 2011 returns to Columbia, therefore Jason Kenny , which was dominated in the final in straight sets by Bauge dry. In the event of the team sprint, the decommissioning of the French trio victorious advantage to Germany (Enders, Levy, Nimke), already crowned in 2010. Baugé is a disaster, but also for the French track, whose image will inevitably be tarnished by this affair.

First tripled since Rousseau

Grégory Bauge was the first sprinter since his coach Florian Rousseau (1996-1998) to win three consecutive world championship in speed individual discipline’s most prestigious track. In 2011, it became stronger than ever, dominating the competition head and shoulders. His one-year suspension imposed by the Disciplinary Committee of the French Cycling Federation. A decision last November and released Friday by the International Cycling Union. According to the International Regulations, three problems over a period of eighteen months related to the location or absence of a control (once in the case of Bauge) or imprecise location (twice), equivalent to a positive control and may for athletes concerned a penalty of about two years of suspension.

Importantly, this suspension is retroactive, which means it runs from 23 November 2010 to November 23, 2011. Hence the loss of two world titles. But it also means that Grégory Bauge is not within the scope of this measure today. It can therefore claim to a normal selection for the London Olympics next summer. If, sportingly, he is as strong as the past three years, it will be the same as the favorite for the gold medal. The question is how it digests this. It is unclear whether the French champion also plans to appeal. International bodies have also the opportunity to challenge that decision. But for the French track, the damage is done. The home may not be very friendly in London. Especially since the British have not forgotten the remarks of some of their French opponents after the Beijing Games, where the domination of the track racers of his Majesty was overwhelming. A nasty backlash …

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The flavor of the South

The basis for good barbecue marinades is usually an oil, either olive, sun or other vegetable oil. It transmits not only the flavors of spices and herbs, but also provides grilling that the meat or the Fish remain juicy and tender. added spices, herbs, garlic, salt and pepper. Even a small dash of vinegar or lemon juice will not hurt: The acid makes the meat especially tender. Barbecue marinades are a success!

Good move by leave

Meat and poultry should be to treat yourself to an hour marinating in fish generally range from just 30 minutes. Important: The grilling should pull in a cool place in the barbecue marinade, but not in the refrigerator. Otherwise it must be before grilling again until reaching room temperature.

So that excess oil can not fall into the flames and toxic vapors – Drain before grilling, the grill marinade from steak or the chicken breast: another tip.

When the mixture has the amateur cook barbecue marinades all freedoms: Trial and error is always his favorite flavor, creativity is virtually unlimited. Here are some suggestions:

* For red meat such as lamb, beef, veal and pork, but also a powerful barbecue marinade is with fresh rosemary, thyme and garlic

* Freshly grated ginger gives poultry dishes such as chicken, duck, turkey a fresh touch of the exotic

* Dill harmonizes very well with fish

* With soy sauce, sesame oil, ginger and garlic mix makes a quick marinade Asian barbecue – perfect for both beef and pork as well as with duck or fish.

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Summer party with friends

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The party planner

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